The phrase "over my dead body" is too much for this exercise. Instead, how about, "over this pint of chocolate beer" because in all honesty, that is the place this thought originated. Plus, I'm new to this.
Hubby and I got a Get Out of Jail Early card tonight from boring college course and made bee-line for local pub. I hadn't seen him for about 2 days, so naturally my inclination was to barrage him speedily with all my new thoughts from the past 48 hours.
I told him about the newfound concept about making decisions based upon Principles instead of Details... and cited how this guy (see last post) said that micromanaging details is not conducive to making decisions. Apparently, principles are much better at the job. I also told Hubby that my next hurdle to Becoming Myself was to identify the principles that tend to push me in one direction rather than another.
Once we drained our dose of cognitively-impairing liquid, the bartender handed me the bill: $13.90 for 2 beers. For 3 seconds I started to think grumpy, impoverished thoughts. Then, instead, I saw opportunity knocking: a chance to not compromise a principle! Then I paid happily, knowing that $13.90 was very worth 45 minutes of connection with my husband (and beer that tasted like chocolate).
I am curious about you: when have you made a difficult decision based upon Principle? And when, oh horror, have you Compromised your Principles? Got any light to shed? I need to see how other people have made it through to the other side of a Decision.
Tuesday, November 10, 2009
Over chocolate beer
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4 comments:
Wowza. We shall chat. Glad you enjoyed the beer with Hubby. I am glad you are always questing...me too. That's why we're friends.
LOVE.
I second Monster Librarian's observation about always questioning!! One word for the biggest decision that compromised some of my principles, while still maintaining others - the hardest decision I've ever made:
FLORIDA!
That part of our lives is over now, and I honestly can't look back and say it was the "right" decision (it was in some ways), or the "wrong" decision (some of that too). It was a decision that led me/us on a different path for a little while, but the path will always be a part of my/our greater journey... further indicating to me that there is little black and white in the world, only shades of everything else in between!
Courtney: since you have lived the decision that was Florida and seem at peace with it... would you do something like that again? What are you willing to compromise and what are you not... and do you see those changing with time?
As for me, yes: questing is a strong theme in my life these days. But I am also trying to mix more "doing" with all the thinking.
I followed my Principles when I decided to get a music degree instead of a math or engineering degree as almost everyone suggested. We'll see how that works out in the long run, but definitely made my 7 years of college/grad school a fun and fulfulling time.
As a side note: you should try the Pittsfield Brewing Company some time - really good, home-brewed beer, but it's only about $3-4 for a pint - you can go on Principle AND details :)
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